Our forever family day was 8 months ago today. Time is moving at warp speed it seems. I can't believe she has been with me for over half a year. And she will be 2 in a couple of months????
Dear Anon, I hear ya!I had planned on doing a seperate post for this issue. Trust me I want it gone too. Het teeth are starting to show it's effects. We are working on it. Her Doctor told me I should give her til she is 2. (That's 2 months). Anyone have any ideas???
Happy 8 month family day!!! She is so adorable and gets cuter each.and.every.day!
Pacy comment from anonymous.... Jen get rid of the pacy WHEN ABBY is ready to let go of it. I think with Children from orphanages, the rule of thumb is thrown out the door. If she gets much needed security and comfort from it, keep it. Only you as Abby's momma will know when the time is right. Teeth??? Orthodonics will fix that.
I'm with Lisa in terms of letting her have it when she needs it. I've had comments of our ex-doctor about Hannah using hers and being 'too old' but personally I couldn't care less what she - or others - think. (Her lack of sympathy and empathy are one of the reasons she is the EX-doctor!)
Abby will phase it out as she is ready. Hannah's orphanage gave her the dummy/paci whenever she was alone in her crib (a lot of time obviously): it's not something I feel I can just take away from her. It was a self-soothing tool for too long for it to be suddenly done away with.
In family/emotional terms Abby is only 8 months old (congratulations, btw) and obviously she still needs its comfort. 8 months is not long for our kids.
Whilst I am starting to phase ours out, I still let Hannah have hers almost on demand - she demands it generally when she is tired or upset. It soothes and comforts her - why would I want to take that from her? Other times she justs asks for it because she has seen it lying around, in which case I say no, it is only for bed time. She accepts that pretty well too.
I'd say if you're determined to phase it out just work on reduction first of all, and identify when you think Abby really needs it. For Hannah I always let her have it when she is going to sleep and I always take it when we go out somewhere so she can have it if she is tired/upset or stressed. I know from the way Hannah behaves that at these times it genuinely helps her stay calm and cope with stress. There is no way I would take that away from her, without something equally effective to replace it with!
It doesn't seem that long ago that we all were waiting for Abby's referral. Boy does time fly! Luke has been home 4 1/2 years and is on Kindergarten now! And Lauren has been home 6 weeks.
Abby is so CUTE! She is the only child I know that you can put any color on her and she looks adorable! Most kids have certain colors that look best on them but Abby looks great in every color!
Paci - Luke had a paci until he was almost 3 but only in the crib at sleep time. I never let him have it outside the crib. We thought it would be world war three when we took it away but he gave it up easily. He was ready. I wouldn't take it away from Abby altogether. It is a hard call.
Happy 8 months... I can't believe how time flies... Abby has grown and changed sooo much in such a short time.. You are an amazing mommy.. and for the pacy ... KyLee had her's until she was 3 and we talked about it for awhile then I had her throw it in the garbage.. and she was fine with it.. I think 2 is young but that is my personal opinion.. They have to be old enough to understand that they are throwing it away and will not get it back... of course I kept one just incase she had a total meltdown.. but she didn't Hugs to you.
Not to argue with anon. but children do have memories before 3.Lindsay said it well. While it seems like she's been with us forever, it's only 8 mos. Let her enjoy being a baby longer. Remember these are baby teeth. xo's to you both. Mom
And a note on the paci - Muriel uses her thumb. We've been a family for 2 years and she'll be 3 in December. That thumb has been so important to her during some difficult times in these 2 years. I'm thrilled she's got it. And as far as I'm concerned, she can keep on using it for a long time to come.
Wow. 8 months of that sweetie. Can't believe there was a time you were waiting for her! As a speech path I usually agree with the get rid of the paci asap, but we do have her past to consider. You could try small increments of time without, saving it for use when she most needs it. But mostly do what you feel is right. You know your girl. =)
It seems as if she has been with you forever. Abby just gets cuter by the day...who knew that was possible. She will give up her paci when she is ready. I have just been TOLD by my pediatrician not to do anything at all yet, about by 19 month old thumb sucker! Rosies teeth, and she only has 4 on the bottom are all out of whack.
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That is CRAZY!! Congrats on 8 months home together!
Time to say bye bye to pacy :-)
It will be nice to see pictures of her without it in her mouth...
:-)
Dear Anon, I hear ya!I had planned on doing a seperate post for this issue. Trust me I want it gone too. Het teeth are starting to show it's effects. We are working on it. Her Doctor told me I should give her til she is 2. (That's 2 months). Anyone have any ideas???
Happy 8 month family day!!! She is so adorable and gets cuter each.and.every.day!
Pacy comment from anonymous.... Jen get rid of the pacy WHEN ABBY is ready to let go of it. I think with Children from orphanages, the rule of thumb is thrown out the door. If she gets much needed security and comfort from it, keep it. Only you as Abby's momma will know when the time is right. Teeth??? Orthodonics will fix that.
Lisa
I'm with Lisa in terms of letting her have it when she needs it. I've had comments of our ex-doctor about Hannah using hers and being 'too old' but personally I couldn't care less what she - or others - think. (Her lack of sympathy and empathy are one of the reasons she is the EX-doctor!)
Abby will phase it out as she is ready. Hannah's orphanage gave her the dummy/paci whenever she was alone in her crib (a lot of time obviously): it's not something I feel I can just take away from her. It was a self-soothing tool for too long for it to be suddenly done away with.
In family/emotional terms Abby is only 8 months old (congratulations, btw) and obviously she still needs its comfort. 8 months is not long for our kids.
Whilst I am starting to phase ours out, I still let Hannah have hers almost on demand - she demands it generally when she is tired or upset. It soothes and comforts her - why would I want to take that from her? Other times she justs asks for it because she has seen it lying around, in which case I say no, it is only for bed time. She accepts that pretty well too.
I'd say if you're determined to phase it out just work on reduction first of all, and identify when you think Abby really needs it. For Hannah I always let her have it when she is going to sleep and I always take it when we go out somewhere so she can have it if she is tired/upset or stressed. I know from the way Hannah behaves that at these times it genuinely helps her stay calm and cope with stress. There is no way I would take that away from her, without something equally effective to replace it with!
love the first picture.
Time does move fast when you are a parent. Who told these kids they are allowed to grow so fast?
I think you should tune out the rest of the world and trust your gut on the pacifier issue.
It doesn't seem that long ago that we all were waiting for Abby's referral. Boy does time fly! Luke has been home 4 1/2 years and is on Kindergarten now! And Lauren has been home 6 weeks.
Abby is so CUTE! She is the only child I know that you can put any color on her and she looks adorable! Most kids have certain colors that look best on them but Abby looks great in every color!
Paci - Luke had a paci until he was almost 3 but only in the crib at sleep time. I never let him have it outside the crib. We thought it would be world war three when we took it away but he gave it up easily. He was ready. I wouldn't take it away from Abby altogether. It is a hard call.
Happy 8 months.
Mary
Wow 8 months already!
Love all the pics! She looks like such a happy tike!
Happy 8 months...
I can't believe how time flies...
Abby has grown and changed sooo much in such a short time..
You are an amazing mommy..
and for the pacy ... KyLee had her's until she was 3 and we talked about it for awhile then I had her throw it in the garbage.. and she was fine with it..
I think 2 is young but that is my personal opinion.. They have to be old enough to understand that they are throwing it away and will not get it back... of course I kept one just incase she had a total meltdown.. but she didn't
Hugs to you.
She will talk better with that thing gone. Orphans or not, babies don't remember things until they are three.
Not to argue with anon. but children do have memories before 3.Lindsay said it well. While it seems like she's been with us forever, it's only 8 mos. Let her enjoy being a baby longer. Remember these are baby teeth. xo's to you both. Mom
Anon number two, I beg to differ. I'm also going to assume based on your phrasing of your statement that you yourself know very little about adoption.
I'll leave it at that....
Super cute! Congratulations!
And a note on the paci - Muriel uses her thumb. We've been a family for 2 years and she'll be 3 in December. That thumb has been so important to her during some difficult times in these 2 years. I'm thrilled she's got it. And as far as I'm concerned, she can keep on using it for a long time to come.
Wow. 8 months of that sweetie. Can't believe there was a time you were waiting for her!
As a speech path I usually agree with the get rid of the paci asap, but we do have her past to consider. You could try small increments of time without, saving it for use when she most needs it. But mostly do what you feel is right. You know your girl. =)
What a happy girl (and mom too, I bet!)
It seems as if she has been with you forever. Abby just gets cuter by the day...who knew that was possible.
She will give up her paci when she is ready. I have just been TOLD by my pediatrician not to do anything at all yet, about by 19 month old thumb sucker! Rosies teeth, and she only has 4 on the bottom are all out of whack.
P.S. what is with all these pushy anon commenters?
She looks fabulous and is happy healthy and you love her to bits....so what if she is using a paci, she isn't even 2 yet. Sheesh.
SO fast! I am shocked that some of the people I started following on this journey have been home over 2 years already! How? How? How?
I'm sorry but ANON posters really PO me. If someone has something to say then OWN it. You have nothing to justify to anyone.
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