Tuesday, March 28, 2006

Officially Bummin!!


My expected wait for Abby continues to grow longer. If the current trend continues then it is likely that I will not meet Abby until early 2007. For my friends and family that are following this blog I will try and explain this development. When I started this process the expected wait for referrals was 6 to 7 months. This wait period begins from the time your dossier is officially logged in by the CCAA in China (12-7-05 for me) and ends at referral. Referrals (when your baby is assigned to you) were coming out once a month for approximately 1 months worth of log in dates. This trend continued for quite awhile and I have herd of some lucky families that waited as little as 5 months. Fast forward to now and things have changed. It has taken 3 months for the CCAA to get through the May log in date referrals and unfortunately this last batch that started coming out yesterday evidently was cut off at May 30'th. Meaning May 31 log in date families have to wait yet another month for their childrens referral (My heart goes out to you).........SOOOOOOOOO if you do the math you will see that I have quite a bit of time to go. That said (and I know you mean well) there are 3 things I can think of that I would rather not hear right now. "Why don't you change countries?" My daughter is in China. "Why do you have to wait so long?" I really don't know and don't think anyone really knows for sure either. "Too bad your not Meg Ryan. I bet she didn't have to wait." I'm willing to bet she waited as long as everyone else did. So if I seem stressed or grouchy please understand what I am going through. Will my current state of mind last the duration of my entire wait? I don't think so. I will move on but please give me some time to adjust. This not knowing is the worst for me. I can deal with any wait for my treasure but I wish somebody could just give me an actual date that I can hold on to. That is not going to happen...... So there you have it, I will keep you updated! And as for all of my adoption buddies in "Blogville", There is safety in numbers so we are all in this together. Thanks for reading.

6 comments:

Joannah said...

We're all waiting with you! :-)

Shannon S said...

This is a crazy ride, isn't it? It's just GOT to speed up...

Anonymous said...

Jenny ~ The wait time stinks! I guess the only thing I can say is, try not to think about all the red tape. It happens in all the countries, I can speak for Russia. It is sooooo frustrating! Think about the red thread that connects you to Abby. The systems has slowed down because she is not able to come home yet! But she will soon... Hang in there!
Mary Phillips

laurie said...

we're here for you!!!!
love ya~
laurie,chris,christopher, & erin

Kristie said...

Jenny,
My heart sinks for you. Just remember that you have a support system and no matter how grouchy, happy, sad or elated your day has you, we all love you and continue to pray for your journey to Abby to come soon. Just think about all the people who are waiting with you...not just in blogville, but your family. Think about how loved Abby already is and how much more loved she will be when she finally arrives. Maybe it is just God's little way of testing your patience...and we all know how much of that we need as parents. Keep the faith. We love ya!
~Kristie, John, Shane and Loghan

Christi said...

It is very hard now, but I really think that things will pick up again. BTW I saw Meg Ryan on Oprah and she said that the process took her about 2 years. I am trying very hard to enjoy the journey and I do have a lot of things to keep me busy, still there is an ache that only our daughters will fill.