Tuesday, July 15, 2008

UUUGGG!

2 days of daycare down, 1 more to go this week. Yesterday began as I expected. She walked in on her own but wanted me to hold her once we reached her classroom. She cried hard and reached and clawed for me when I left. I did okay, I didn't cry, I was hopeful that she would settle down. I called 30 min later to check on her and they said she was no longer crying and doing okay. She did not eat or drink the breakfast they gave her but did drink the juice that I sent in with her in her own sippy cup. I fed her that morning before we left. I was afraid she would be upset and not eat otherwise. For lunch she had a cup of apple sauce and 1 chicken nugget. She refused the milk they gave her but finished the rest of her juice in her sippy. She did eat all of her mid afternoon snack. It bugs me tho cuz this daycare is big on having the older toddlers drink from a regular cup. They give them 2 weeks with their sippy then they have to switch. The kids drink from little dixie cups. I suggested they give her a regular cup with water to practice but also give her the sippy since she would hardly get any fluids otherwise. We have been practicing at home too.Poor thing is always thirsty when I pick her up. I have juice ready for her and she chugs the whole cup immediately and asks for more. She is napping well there tho. I was surprised she was able to sleep on the mat by her self but she did. This morning's drop off was terrible. She refused to walk in by her self, kept shaking her head no so I carried her in, while I was talking to her teacher I looked down at her and her little lips were quivering and she was crying silent tears. I lost it then. (silent tears are worse then loud crying in my book) I gave her to her teacher and again she cried, reached for me and called me. I left in tears. I called 15 minutes later and they said she had stopped crying and was getting ready for breakfast. I had fed her already again just in case tho and again she really did not eat. On top of it all she woke up this morning all congested and has a little cough. I gave her some dimatap before I brought her in and asked them to give her Motrin at 9am and 3 pm. She also has 2 little swollen lumps on the back of her head. My brother in law (MD) looked at them and said they were swollen lymph nodes from a earlier tick bite that we pulled off the top of her head on the 4th of July. We started her on antibiotics the day he looked at her (Sat Nite) They can be painful (the swollen lymph nodes) so that's why I wanted her to get the Motrin. Anyhoo, lunch today went better, she refused their fruit but ate half of a roll and half of the spaghetti (SP) they gave her, napped well and ate all of her afternoon snack and drank some milk! They say she is fussy on & off in the morning but does much better in the afternoon after her nap. This is hard!!!! After I picked her up tonight (I peaked first and she was sitting on her teachers lap doing a puzzle) and took her to the City Center over near her day care, she ran around the fountains and climbed the steps and had a good time. She ate well tonight too. After her bath tho and all she wanted to do was sit in my lap, she did for 2 hrs while we watched Baby Einstein videos till she fell asleep in my lap. Tomorrow I am packing a lunch for her and also sending in extra juice. That we if she doesn't eat what they give her then they can give her mine. I also plan to talk with them about the sippy. I don't think 2 weeks will be enough time for her to change to a regular cup. She is already experiencing enough stress with the daycare transition and does not need any extra stress. I also don't think she is getting enough fluids in her while there. I hope they will agree with me....

Sorry this post got so long but it felt good to unload my concerns. Please pray for my baby that she has a good day tomorrow.

16 comments:

Sherry Mc said...

I share your tears. If anyone asks me about her, my eyes just flood up. Can't wait till Thursday. Give her lots of extra hugs from meema and da. xo to you both, mom

Michelle said...

That has got to be so hard. Hopefully it will get easier as time goes by. Sending good thoughts!

I think you're right about the sippy cup. If you talk to them, they should agree to postpone it, at least until she if more comfortable there.

Michelle said...

Ooops...meant "IS" more comfortable there. Typos!

Eliza2006 said...

I feel your pain. I know this is so, so hard right now. Just know that you will both survive. Eliza was the same exact way in the beginning. I remember being so bugged that they wouldn't let her have a little pillow as a comfort item. Just keep telling yourself that it WILL get better!

Tiffany

Lisa said...

Hang in there. You're doing great. I know it's really hard and it will get easier.

I'm heading to bed now so I'll add a prayer. I'll even put it before my "please make my butt smaller" prayer.

Night,night!

Chinazhoumom said...

Sounds just like all the normal transition stages - just like K went thru - and the sippy cup thing - don't sweat it - just have a big cup with watered down juice when you get her - she will learn faster - and she will want to be just like the other kids - K did the same thing - the pic at food etc - she will be fine - let her go at her pace - the more she sees this is how it is done - the more she wil settle in- also after a week or so - see if you can make it a gane to get to the classroom - - a race - K always did better if not in my arms - when we went in - vs carried - the seperatio was harder - I still bend down and give her big hugs and kisses and off she goes - at first - sure it is HARD - but sounds like she is doing well - hope her nodes feel better - I estimate it will take about 2 weeks (10 days) for her to settle in - chat about school on the way - what are you going to do today - who are do going to see - what songs etc - transitions bite - but this too shall pass - it was one of the hardest things to do - but so necessary...
c & k

kris said...

C gave great advice! I remember Alison (Mali's mom) talking to me about this, and how she would just have to suck it up and not get emotional and not spend more than a few seconds lingering to say good-bye (the longer she stayed the worse it got for Mali kind of thing). It wasn't long before Mali was excited about going to daycare! It will happen and get better, promise!

Kelley said...

I know this is so hard for you! Hang in there! I'm hoping they will give you a little longer on the sippy cup...

Isabella's Mommy & Daddy said...

Sorry you have to go through this... I am sure she will get better... it is just a transition..
I think it is harder on the mom then the little ones..
HUG to you my friend..

Briana's Mom said...

I am sure it will get easier each day she goes. Hang in there!

Nancy said...

I applaud you for taking the initiative for Abby with the daycare. I think daycares continually need reminded that you are the parent, and make the decisions for your child. They are someone you pay during the day to care for your child. They should not have the right to tell you how to raise your daughter.

Shannon said...

I TOTALLY understand how you are feeling. Emily is doing the exact same thing now. Crying and reaching for me when I drop her off at day care. It's horrible. I feel like I'm handing her over to the Nazi's or something! I cry on the way to work. And then when I call to check on her, she's fine! It's so hard. I hope your Little one gets better soon. What's a mom to do?!

Donna said...

Man, that's tough. I know day care has to have rules, but that can make it really challenging when your child is transitioning.

Hang tough...you're the mom and you know what's best for Abby. It will get better!

Jenna :) said...

ah i found your blog again! i found it when you were in china and then i lost it!

i see everything is going well with abby! i hope the daycare adjustment gets easier :)

Shannon said...

Oh. Sooo hard. You both are in my thoughts and prayers. How sweet it is to have her in you lap and chill out with Baby Einstein.

Lindsay said...

Sorry it's been such a hard beginning. I think you are spot on about the sippy cup. Abby has already had a ton of changes to cope with and can't be expected to transition as quickly as they seem to want. Hope it is going better now.